Yesterday I was speaking to my dear friend about relationships and I sent her this message, “You are strong, and you will get through this period. This is just a season of your life, not your whole life.”
Letting go of the plans you had for your life, especially in relationships, can be the hardest thing to do. We go through a range of emotions, starting to internalize our actions and finding fault or lack within ourselves. We search for meaning, even though we must accept that we may not find the meaning or closure we are looking for. Yet we can still find a way to let go, move past our ideal life and the hurts we have experienced, and live our best life. It is during this growth period that we truly learn we must surrender.
It can seem scary and defeatist, like you are just giving up. But this surrender is not giving up, it’s awakening the fire that is within you. It is the ultimate act of self-love. It is taking back your personal power and shifting the balance of power back in your hands. You are always the one in charge of your life. No person can take away your love. Love is your internal state of being. A gift from the Divine, that no human can rob you of. Sometimes, we get a little lost and forget this, but it is true.
I’m listening to Deepak Chopra’s The Secret of Love: Meditations for attracting and being in love (It’s on Hoopla; download the app and hopefully your library has the title available). Chopra’s first universal law of love is:
If you don’t love yourself, then you won’t be able to love anyone else. If you don’t have it, you can’t give it. No matter what you want to give, you have to have it within you yourself. And everyone has abundant love, what interferes with it is the social mask we put on as a result of the hypnosis of social conditioning which starts when in the first 3-4 years of our life.
It is what I have been telling people for years, all love starts with self-love. That is the bottom line. That’s the big secret.
Do you love yourself just as you are right now, unchanged and flawed as all human beings are?
Here is a message from A.A. Gabriel to help us navigate through the week. (8/12-8/18)
Monday: Taking Chances – Put your faith in the unknown to bring you higher reward. Leave behind doing what is safe but limiting. Break through barriers. You may feel uncomfortable but know it’s for your greater good.
Tuesday: Passion – Be in love with all that surrounds you. Look for beauty and joy in everyday things. Let love flood your heart.
Wednesday: Sanctuary – Take care of yourself by spending time alone with your thoughts. Be peaceful towards your inner-self. This is a time for a brief respite.
Thursday: Strength in Community – Find inspiration and strength by engaging with fellow like-minded individuals. Take a class, get out of your sanctuary and be social.
Friday: Hope – Be at peace with the challenges you are facing, knowing that by giving up that which you are trying so hard to hold onto, something new and more fulfilling will enter your life.
Saturday: Awareness – Open up and start to make the connections that you’ve been trying to see. All those synchronicities are meaningful. What are your dreams trying to reveal to you?
Sunday: New Love – New relationships are moving towards you. Be open to all possibilities. If you want love in your life, you have to allow room for it. Make space. Clear out that which no longer serves a purpose for you.
Be well friends!